Me, Yanzhen, Yanjia,Hiany,QiuYi and Ronda!

The photo that caused a upstir on facebook. Did you see Ronda??

Uncle's present for dajie!! It's wrapped in aluminium foil!!!XD

And lastly, a group photo!!

Read Val's blog today and i was just pondering over what she wrote. Isn't it cool and awesome how real un-christians can be? I mean they will talk about everything without putting on a facade! How i pray, wish and hope that Christians like us can be even more real.

I have seen people who
Gave answers that they know their leaders wanted to hear.
Put on a facade so that their leaders will think that they are "doing well"
Have lost their "real-ness" because they are in fear of being judged and looked down.

We always ask, "Why can't people be more real?" The real question we should ask is actually. "Do i provide a space for people to be real?" I mean think along that line, who in the right mind will dare to be real IF they know they will be judged, looked down upon and given up hope on?

Imagine with me(NOT real case scenarios so don't think too much.) :

Situation 1:
There is this guy who is a ptl not leading anyone. He came and told you, who is the leader that he has gone back into his old ways of pornography again(Very controversial I know.)

Choice A:Will you immediately discipled him, lose trust and faith in him, start to look at him differently and tell your leaders above you, that this guy is just not doing well and needs to be taken down with immediate effect?
OR
Choice B:Will you just love him, embrace him and tell him that you will support him through this period and encouraging him that this is a test for him where his convictions are tested and through this, he is gonna do even greater and mightier for God?

Situation 2:
You have this girl regular planted whom you really think have great potential to be a leader. She came and told you that she is with her ex again.

Choice A:Will you just disciple her immediately, give up thoughts on rising her up to be a leader, starts to sow less in her life and find other regulars whom are "doing well" and make her feel that she she is left out and her leaders have given hope on her until she backslide?
OR
Choice B:Will you just find the root of the problem like why she is into BGR again, pray for her during QT and 4D-ed the things that she will be able to do for God when she rise up and sow even more into her life and kept on having faith and believing in her?

If you chose A, it's time to reflect why people do not dare to be themselves around you. Are they afraid that you will look down on them? Do you give them a space where they can be real without being afraid of being judged or looked down on?

If you chose B, ask yourself another question, " Will I do what I say I will?" It's easy to just say "Hey, I will just love the person blah blah blah" but will we really do what we say if such things happen?

Ultimately, if we want people to be real, we need to provide a platform for them to be real and that means we should not let them have the feeling that we will judged them, look down on them and just lose all our hopes in them. For me, I want to be someone real and at the same time provide a platform for people to be real. Becoming a leader is not so much about titles or glory but is about serving people and giving them a platform where they can be real with you without the fear of being rejected or judged.

And to sidetrack a bit. All this scenarios are completely fiction-based and came out of my very imaginative mind so dont think too much or try to go search who are these 2 characters! LOL! So dont think too much about it!!